Sexual addictions have become very prevalent in the United States in recent years. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy estimates that 12 million people are suffering from sexual addictions. The problem is often unidentified, but can create serious problems for their spouses. If you believe your spouse has a sexual addiction, then you should look for the warning signs.
Red Flags that Your Partner is a Sex Addict
One of the biggest reasons that many people don’t recognize their partners are sex addicts is that they are often in denial. They don’t want to admit that the person they have given their lives to may have difficulty reciprocating their affections to the same degree. You need to open your mind to the possibility and look for these red flags.
They Are Constantly Being Deceptive
Sexual addicts tend to turn into pathological liars. Brian Whitney, a sex addict and contributor to the Huffington Post, explains that this is because they are leading double lives. They are either cheating on their partners, constantly viewing pornography or both. If you are constantly catching your partner in lies, then it could be that they are dealing with this addiction.
They Guilt Trip You for Not Having Enough Sex
Sex addicts rarely feel satisfied with sex. They may berate their partners for not having more sex with them. The guilt trips aren’t nearly as bad as the anger that arises after their requests are denied. Refusing them sex can push them into darker and more dangerous sexual activities.
Experiments with More Risky Sexual Fetishes
Sexual addicts often elevate to more risky activities. They may engage in prostitution, exhibitionism, seeking sex with total strangers, accessing obscene content on the Internet, or other behavior that can lead to serious problems. Most sex addicts never engage in activities that could lead to criminal charges or serious health risks, but the risk becomes greater if the addiction is untreated.
The problems usually begin with taboo but otherwise safe and legal fetishes such as consensual BDSM. However, it can evolve to more problematic behavior if it isn’t addressed. As their partner, you need to be aware of these activities to avoid being exposed to potential STDs or risk getting tied up in their legal problems.
They Show Little Empathy for Your Comfort Levels
Healthy sexual relationships depend on mutual respect. There is nothing wrong with your partner discussing unusual sexual activities, as long as they are safe and something you are both comfortable with. However, people with sexual addictions are often narcissistic with regards to their sex lives. They may show little concern for your boundaries, which can escalate into more serious problems.
Why You Need to Recognize Sexual Addicted Partners
Sexual addicts can create a number of problems for their partners. They may become dangerous if their sexual behaviors become more perverse. However, this is a pretty rare problem. The bigger issue is that they can neglect you in favor of online stimuli or commit infidelity. This can lead to bitterness, anger and ultimately failed relationships. You want to be aware of these problems and try to get them treatment if possible.